There are those who walk among us that believe gender and gender roles are created by us--people. Nothing could be further from the truth or more false. Men should embrace their manliness, while still striving to be gentlemen. It is here that I will help men understand how to be both.
Manly Gentlemanly
Understand the basics of auto-mechanics Change a tire for a stranded lady
Know your way around the woods. Get Take your boots off before walking in
muddy. the house.
Go hunting, even if you don't kill anything. Bring breakfast home for your
woman after not killing anything.
Drink a beer and build a bonfire. Don't get drunk around your woman.
Understand technology. Call her, don't text.
It's okay to scratch your crotch. It's not okay to scratch your butt.
Own a truck. Open the door for her (in and out).
Own jeans and wear them proudly. Do not EVER buy/wear skinny jeans.
Use "ain't" sparingly. Know "ain't" is grammatically
incorrect.
Read often. Playboy does not constitute a book.
Drink coffee, not latte. Drink tea with your woman.
(Real men do not walk into Starbucks)
Watch football--lots of it. Watch The Notebook with your
woman (don't tell your friends).
Go fishing. Catch fish. Grill them. Eat the vegetables your woman cooks
(even if you don't like them).
Mow the yard. That's your job. Build a bonfire using the clippings as
a fire starter. Roast a marshmallow
or two for your woman.
Get in a few fistfights when you're young. Make your woman feel protected.
If you're going on a road trip, you drive. Let her pick the radio station (do NOT
hum along to anything by REO
Speedwagon).
Scratch your back on the corner of a wall. Offer to put lotion on her back. She'll
let you know when she wants lotion
on her front. You don't always have to
offer.
Brace yourself with a hand on the wall as Raise the seat to pee, put it down when
you urinate. finished.
Own and wear a canvass winter coat. Never, ever own/wear one of those
fluffy down coats. That's just wrong.
Work hard, get sweaty and stink. Take a shower.
Embrace your manliness and gender She wants a MAN and a
differences! GENTLEMAN!
It's really that simple guys. And I have news for my metropolitan friends: even if she tells you she finds manly men roguish and Neanderthal-ish.....she doesn't. She's thinking about us while you're playing Candy Crush on your new iPhone.
Haha! Very good. This entire article is my husband to a"T"!!! Let's me walk in Starbucks and he waits outside. He teaches our boys all of this.
ReplyDeleteHe's a man!
DeleteLove this Howard!!!! Let me add this:
ReplyDeleteGuys, it's REALLY simple......less is more! If we "ask" for something or something to be done, your doing it ISN'T genuine. You KNOW your responsibilities as a man, so pull the boot straps up and do them! To be a REAL MAN is to do without being asked, NO flowers on a holiday, birthday, or anniversary, but on an unordinary day 'just because". We don't have to have lavish trips. Rather a day together outside with your UNINTERRUPTED attention is the best gift you can "give"....oh and by the way, that is FREE! Your time, which all women know is valuable, is precious and we appreciate it when it is given. Just a few extra thoughts from a woman's perspective!
Listen to this woman, young men!^^^^
DeleteMy wife and I couldn't agree more.
ReplyDeleteThose are great words of wisdom! There is a book by John Eldridge called "Wild at Heart" that should be required reading for all guys!
ReplyDeleteI love this article Howard! All men should read this. I have dated both a man and a gentleman! Believe me when I tell you that the Gentleman always wins out over the man!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lea. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Share with your friends! :)
DeleteHoward, you write from the soul this work is again excellent. I consider you a true friend and mentor
ReplyDeleteKyle, such kind words. I appreciate your friendship and vote of confidence!
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